Yes, I'm in love. In love in almost every conventional way - enjoying my career, crazy about my family, and daydreaming about my childhood sweetheart, my soon-to-be wife. But then, I'm also quite madly in love with the feeling of love.
I think love is one of the most beautiful manifestations of karma yoga. True love is unconditional and infinite - you care for your loved ones no matter what they do or become - you regardless keep working to protect them, keep praying for their health and happiness. What is this but nishkaam karma?
God did not give us the iPhone and Xbox as part of our birth package. He gave us our family and nature for entertainment. Nature that is full of resources and variety, giving us abundant scope to learn, relax, and care. And family that will go to any extent to ensure our well-being. Somewhere along the way, he also gave us an interesting sensation that makes us (even nutjobs like Gaddafi) love these people close to us, without even having the thought of expecting returns for this love. As we grow up, we get into increasingly transactional relationships, initially dilute with friends and teachers, but clearer as we make lab partners, colleagues, suppliers, customers, etc. For many, even their marriage is an agreement with implicit terms & conditions. And yet, we get another reminder of this unconditional love - when we have kids, and when we feel no achievement, no wealth, no property in the world matters more than their health and happiness.
This instinct of true love is our innate quality as mammals. It resides deep inside us, something we may try to ignore in our worldly pursuits, but yet keeps us incomplete and dissatisfied when we do so. It is equally present in the rich and the poor, the educated and the innocent. It is immensely powerful - it can drive us to take actions beyond our own expectations of ourselves, achieve feats that seem to defy the laws of physics and biology.
It is in recognition and ultimate surrender to this spirit that we can find true joy in life. Like I have mentioned in my earlier posts, nothing gives us more pleasure than the effort to make others happy. We can always find ways to love our kids, spouse, parents, siblings, friends, etc. As we realize this joy, we will feel like expanding this circle of love, applying the karma yoga of love on everyone around us and all creations of nature. I find role models all around me - from Gandhiji and Vivekananda and Mother Teresa and Pope Francis to people close to me, like Fr. Hector and my teachers and parents.
Love empowers us to rise above our temptations and weaknesses, and experience heaven right here on earth. Love was our first gift from God, love is what he continually showers upon us directly and indirectly, every day, every moment. Offering our love to him and his creations seems the easiest and most natural route (yoga) to unite with him.
Saturday, April 12, 2014
Saturday, March 15, 2014
Analyzing hard work...
I wonder why it is that some of us succeed at the same challenges where others fail. I do not find lack of talent to be the root cause. Several talented people fail when people with average IQ succeed. I tend to agree with the commonly quoted explanation that hard work, put in a disciplined manner and the right direction, is the determining ingredient for success.
This is standard advice and common knowledge, and yet we rarely apply it in life. So I feel like digging a little deeper. Why do people work hard towards certain goals and not others? Why does someone enjoy exercising hard, and another avoids it, despite needing it badly? Why does the latter not mind working hard on some other goals? Clearly, the ability or will to put in hard work does not seem to be an innate characteristic of an individual - everyone seems to possess it and use it at times. In fact, the same person often has different choices about putting in or avoiding effort for the same issue in different conditions.
That leads me to wonder - Is hard work simply an input? Should we consider it our credit (or guilt) if we choose to put in serious effort on an issue? I think it is not as simplistic as that. I think the choice of making effort is an output, not an input.
It seems to me that we choose to put in effort under influence of a variety of factors. These may include:
- Desperation (for survival) - e.g. the routine exercise done by patients of diabetes
- Prospect (of pleasure) - e.g. muscles built to impress a girlfriend
- Fun (of making the effort) - e.g. working out daily just to feel good about oneself
The first (desperation) seems to be the strongest motivation, effective on almost every kind of individual, yet it works only for short spurts of hard effort. Work driven by desperation causes exhaustion quickly, and should we not succeed before we get exhausted, we may even choose to quit.
The second (prospect-driven) seems the weakest, across the board. Sure, we all feel like putting in some extra effort to improve our lifestyle or treat ourselves with something we covet or just add numbers to our bank account, yet this feeling is weak, and we do not mind compromising the effort every so often. Our entropy, our natural inclination to relax or get disoriented, inhibits this effort very easily.
The third is what seems to drive people who put in sustained effort. Most people I look at as successful in various aspects of life have put in effort because they enjoyed the effort itself. They did not just work out of love for the goal - they worked because the work itself was fun. Steve Jobs liked making good gadgets. Warren Buffet likes to apply his brain to analyze and make smart choices. Arvind Kejriwal likes trying to remove corruption. They are not being martyrs by sacrificing watching movies and afternoon naps for their career - any day they will choose their career over these supposed luxuries, for it is more fun.
These "successful" people may not be successful at all aspects of life. Quite like the rest of us. Yet, they are different because for some reason, they could identify the area of effort that their mind resonated with. I think we need to introspect a little to find out what work inspires us to deliver excellence, inspires a thirst in us to learn and progress. We will be successful, every single day, if we identify that area of work and choose that as our career, because that will ensure that we work hard and that therefore we succeed at it.
This is standard advice and common knowledge, and yet we rarely apply it in life. So I feel like digging a little deeper. Why do people work hard towards certain goals and not others? Why does someone enjoy exercising hard, and another avoids it, despite needing it badly? Why does the latter not mind working hard on some other goals? Clearly, the ability or will to put in hard work does not seem to be an innate characteristic of an individual - everyone seems to possess it and use it at times. In fact, the same person often has different choices about putting in or avoiding effort for the same issue in different conditions.
That leads me to wonder - Is hard work simply an input? Should we consider it our credit (or guilt) if we choose to put in serious effort on an issue? I think it is not as simplistic as that. I think the choice of making effort is an output, not an input.
It seems to me that we choose to put in effort under influence of a variety of factors. These may include:
- Desperation (for survival) - e.g. the routine exercise done by patients of diabetes
- Prospect (of pleasure) - e.g. muscles built to impress a girlfriend
- Fun (of making the effort) - e.g. working out daily just to feel good about oneself
The first (desperation) seems to be the strongest motivation, effective on almost every kind of individual, yet it works only for short spurts of hard effort. Work driven by desperation causes exhaustion quickly, and should we not succeed before we get exhausted, we may even choose to quit.
The second (prospect-driven) seems the weakest, across the board. Sure, we all feel like putting in some extra effort to improve our lifestyle or treat ourselves with something we covet or just add numbers to our bank account, yet this feeling is weak, and we do not mind compromising the effort every so often. Our entropy, our natural inclination to relax or get disoriented, inhibits this effort very easily.
The third is what seems to drive people who put in sustained effort. Most people I look at as successful in various aspects of life have put in effort because they enjoyed the effort itself. They did not just work out of love for the goal - they worked because the work itself was fun. Steve Jobs liked making good gadgets. Warren Buffet likes to apply his brain to analyze and make smart choices. Arvind Kejriwal likes trying to remove corruption. They are not being martyrs by sacrificing watching movies and afternoon naps for their career - any day they will choose their career over these supposed luxuries, for it is more fun.
These "successful" people may not be successful at all aspects of life. Quite like the rest of us. Yet, they are different because for some reason, they could identify the area of effort that their mind resonated with. I think we need to introspect a little to find out what work inspires us to deliver excellence, inspires a thirst in us to learn and progress. We will be successful, every single day, if we identify that area of work and choose that as our career, because that will ensure that we work hard and that therefore we succeed at it.
Thursday, November 7, 2013
The Quiet Mind
My friend, the things that do attain
The happy life be these, I find:
The riches left, not got with pain,
The fruitful ground; the quiet mind;
The equal friend; no grudge, no strife;
No charge of rule nor governance;
Without disease the healthy life;
The household of continuance;
The mean diet, no dainty fare;
True wisdom joined with simpleness;
The night discharged of all care,
Where wine the wit may not oppress;
The faithful wife, without debate;
Such sleeps as may beguile the night:
Content thyself with thine estate,
Neither wish death, nor fear his might.
The happy life be these, I find:
The riches left, not got with pain,
The fruitful ground; the quiet mind;
The equal friend; no grudge, no strife;
No charge of rule nor governance;
Without disease the healthy life;
The household of continuance;
The mean diet, no dainty fare;
True wisdom joined with simpleness;
The night discharged of all care,
Where wine the wit may not oppress;
The faithful wife, without debate;
Such sleeps as may beguile the night:
Content thyself with thine estate,
Neither wish death, nor fear his might.
- Henry Howard, Earl of Surrey
Thursday, September 5, 2013
Sustained Satyagraha
I went to watch Satyagraha today. I found it quite interesting for the most part. It got me thinking on the issue - and I guess that means that Prakash Jha has not done a bad job.
Now, the movie is a lot about idealism, popular agitation, and so on, so we can't expect it to work as well as Chennai Express or Singham. The movie did seem to inject a shot of inspiration in some part of the audience, but we all know well that this inspiration won't sustain, for it is not "practical".
So I was left to wonder, what exactly will motivate us to leave our daily humdrum and make effort towards common welfare? Or should we understand that such a "revolution" is impossible?
I can say for sure that such a revolution is not impossible. Gandhiji proved that, in a much more challenged environment, with poor communication systems, no voting rights, illiteracy, and social class discord. Egypt, Libya, and Germany proved that people can get sick of the establishment and bring about a change. So why do we not see such a revolution in India today? Is it because our problems aren't really serious? Is it because we are too selfish to look at the common cause? Or are our politicians smart enough to keep us too occupied to think of our issues?
I like to think that the problem is our stupidity or immaturity. Our immaturity prevents us from seeking action unless we are directly affected. Our immaturity makes us hypocrites - stupidly lighting candles and sharing facebook posts and participating in rallies occasionally, without any sustained or planned effort - just like we say Jay ____ (fill your "God" here), and practice Faraali or Roja or Paryushan so that God overlooks our daily nonsense.
Most seriously of all, our immaturity makes us blind to the opportunity to find pleasure in bringing a positive change. That is, we fail to see the obvious fun in working towards making the world more wonderful.
These initiatives and movements fail because we do not participate with the right mindset. Some of us participate as a reaction to negative or irritating experiences we may have faced. Some participate looking at these as ways to "contribute their share". And of course, then there are the more stupid cases that seek fame or pursue hidden agenda.
I think we need to stop looking at this as a fight of good v/s evil. We are all mixed people, with our share of compromises in character. So are our representatives and public servants - it is just hypocrisy to expect them to be ideal or perfect.
We need to look at this as a long-term effort for self-improvement. We need to seek perfection in our character. We need to learn how to take principle-centric decisions even when they are inconvenient; we need to maintain loyalty for our conscience; we need to learn to ignore irritations (of negative experiences) and avoid reactions.
We need to acquire the patience to understand the people we conveniently declare as villains - see their good side, love them, befriend them by being their true well-wishers, and motivate them to change (primarily in their own interest). We will do this naturally when we develop a strong, genuine character.
This effort for self-improvement is not so hard - in fact, it is fun. We all enjoy upgrading our homes, our offices, our cars - we will find nothing as enjoyable and sustainable as upgrading our character.
The revolutions in Egypt and Libya seem unlikely to succeed. The one in Germany did. As did Gandhiji. He succeeded because he sought to love everyone (as he enjoyed doing so), not discount anyone as an antagonist, understand and learn what "the right" might be, pursue that, seek improvement, and enlighten others to do the same. His autobiography speaks not of his achievement of "kicking the British out", but of his efforts to strengthen his character, his efforts to define and pursue "the right".
The great thing about this attitude is that it is sure to deliver sustained happiness. One pursuing environmental improvement through self-improvement need never worry about chances of his/her success. Because speed and success in self-improvement is always in our hand, and we can get started with that "revolution" anytime, from any situation, including now.
Now, the movie is a lot about idealism, popular agitation, and so on, so we can't expect it to work as well as Chennai Express or Singham. The movie did seem to inject a shot of inspiration in some part of the audience, but we all know well that this inspiration won't sustain, for it is not "practical".
So I was left to wonder, what exactly will motivate us to leave our daily humdrum and make effort towards common welfare? Or should we understand that such a "revolution" is impossible?
I can say for sure that such a revolution is not impossible. Gandhiji proved that, in a much more challenged environment, with poor communication systems, no voting rights, illiteracy, and social class discord. Egypt, Libya, and Germany proved that people can get sick of the establishment and bring about a change. So why do we not see such a revolution in India today? Is it because our problems aren't really serious? Is it because we are too selfish to look at the common cause? Or are our politicians smart enough to keep us too occupied to think of our issues?
I like to think that the problem is our stupidity or immaturity. Our immaturity prevents us from seeking action unless we are directly affected. Our immaturity makes us hypocrites - stupidly lighting candles and sharing facebook posts and participating in rallies occasionally, without any sustained or planned effort - just like we say Jay ____ (fill your "God" here), and practice Faraali or Roja or Paryushan so that God overlooks our daily nonsense.
Most seriously of all, our immaturity makes us blind to the opportunity to find pleasure in bringing a positive change. That is, we fail to see the obvious fun in working towards making the world more wonderful.
These initiatives and movements fail because we do not participate with the right mindset. Some of us participate as a reaction to negative or irritating experiences we may have faced. Some participate looking at these as ways to "contribute their share". And of course, then there are the more stupid cases that seek fame or pursue hidden agenda.
I think we need to stop looking at this as a fight of good v/s evil. We are all mixed people, with our share of compromises in character. So are our representatives and public servants - it is just hypocrisy to expect them to be ideal or perfect.
We need to look at this as a long-term effort for self-improvement. We need to seek perfection in our character. We need to learn how to take principle-centric decisions even when they are inconvenient; we need to maintain loyalty for our conscience; we need to learn to ignore irritations (of negative experiences) and avoid reactions.
We need to acquire the patience to understand the people we conveniently declare as villains - see their good side, love them, befriend them by being their true well-wishers, and motivate them to change (primarily in their own interest). We will do this naturally when we develop a strong, genuine character.
This effort for self-improvement is not so hard - in fact, it is fun. We all enjoy upgrading our homes, our offices, our cars - we will find nothing as enjoyable and sustainable as upgrading our character.
The revolutions in Egypt and Libya seem unlikely to succeed. The one in Germany did. As did Gandhiji. He succeeded because he sought to love everyone (as he enjoyed doing so), not discount anyone as an antagonist, understand and learn what "the right" might be, pursue that, seek improvement, and enlighten others to do the same. His autobiography speaks not of his achievement of "kicking the British out", but of his efforts to strengthen his character, his efforts to define and pursue "the right".
The great thing about this attitude is that it is sure to deliver sustained happiness. One pursuing environmental improvement through self-improvement need never worry about chances of his/her success. Because speed and success in self-improvement is always in our hand, and we can get started with that "revolution" anytime, from any situation, including now.
Thursday, August 1, 2013
Some Simple Principles
What is religion, but a collection of principles that help us navigate happily through life? I am trying to figure my own such principles, and am considering settling with these:
(1) Believe in God (wholeheartedly). Trust his plans, abilities, informality, and intelligence.
(2) You are your mind alone. Life is a God-given opportunity to experience happiness. The world is here to teach you, entertain you, and provide opportunity for you to work and love.
(3) Your happiness, your love, and your efforts are entirely in your control.
(4) Enjoy loving every aspect of the world around you. Love sincerely and unconditionally. Let this love motivate your efforts to improve the world.
(5) Make no efforts except those that are aimed to improve your self and your surroundings (a.k.a. the world).
(6) Enjoy these efforts naturally, for you are working for something you believe in or people you care about. Don't bother about results and reactions, except for fine-tuning your efforts.
(7) Work very hard. More efforts => more fun.
(8) Appreciate and use every opportunity to learn and improve.
(9) Focus on improvement (of self and efforts), not perfection or achievement.
(10) Take decisions based on natural principles driven by your conscience.
A few negatives, for those who didn't get the message clearly enough:
- Save energy from religious compulsions and explicit efforts to please / attract attention of God. How can he be petty enough to need attention and pleasing, foolish enough to ignore your reality, yet powerful enough to perform miracles?
- Save energy from lying, faking feelings, acting without inspiration, or justifying wrong decisions. Enjoy integrity and innocence; win them back if you've lost any.
- Avoid distractions of money, power, fame, relative success or failure, and anesthetic entertainment. It's plainly stupid to choose the illusion of pain over the reality of a beautiful world.
(1) Believe in God (wholeheartedly). Trust his plans, abilities, informality, and intelligence.
(2) You are your mind alone. Life is a God-given opportunity to experience happiness. The world is here to teach you, entertain you, and provide opportunity for you to work and love.
(3) Your happiness, your love, and your efforts are entirely in your control.
(4) Enjoy loving every aspect of the world around you. Love sincerely and unconditionally. Let this love motivate your efforts to improve the world.
(5) Make no efforts except those that are aimed to improve your self and your surroundings (a.k.a. the world).
(6) Enjoy these efforts naturally, for you are working for something you believe in or people you care about. Don't bother about results and reactions, except for fine-tuning your efforts.
(7) Work very hard. More efforts => more fun.
(8) Appreciate and use every opportunity to learn and improve.
(9) Focus on improvement (of self and efforts), not perfection or achievement.
(10) Take decisions based on natural principles driven by your conscience.
A few negatives, for those who didn't get the message clearly enough:
- Save energy from religious compulsions and explicit efforts to please / attract attention of God. How can he be petty enough to need attention and pleasing, foolish enough to ignore your reality, yet powerful enough to perform miracles?
- Save energy from lying, faking feelings, acting without inspiration, or justifying wrong decisions. Enjoy integrity and innocence; win them back if you've lost any.
- Avoid distractions of money, power, fame, relative success or failure, and anesthetic entertainment. It's plainly stupid to choose the illusion of pain over the reality of a beautiful world.
Sunday, July 14, 2013
Deviation from detached effort - our ultimate stupidity
"Nishkaam Karma" is perhaps one of the greatest contributions of the Bhagvad Gita to world philosophy. It seems to be a sure-shot model for living a pleasant life. Yet our religious gurus and self-help books rarely preach this vital concept; in fact, they go to the extent of misinterpreting it in models such as "work and you will definitely be rewarded" and creating the notion of a gullible and corrupt God. I wonder why this simple concept has become so rarely practiced.
On some reflection, I feel that we have been built physically and mentally only to work, to contribute. We require food and shelter, so we may have energy to work. We are given the ability and desire to learn, so that we can contribute better, work more efficiently. We have been given the sense to identify excellence or laxity in our work, so we may ensure the former. We have been given the sense of liking and choice, so we may identify what kind of work we can be best at. And finally, we're gifted a conscience, which ensures that we choose a positive and constructive area of work. Nature has clearly built us to work and contribute to the world in our own positive way.
Executing this right and duty to contribute seems to have no negatives or challenges. Working keeps us fit to live and continue working. Improvising on our efforts exercises and satisfies our mind. Remaining synchronous with our conscience, and detachment from results ensure a mind free from anxiety, free to be innocent, intelligent and creative. We can be our real selves, free to trust and love everyone, unhindered by the baggage of their past actions. Our positive contributions, our trust and love deliver happiness to the world around us, which thereby becomes even easier to work in. I find it hard to see any flaw in nature's design for us.
Nishkaam Karma builds utopia for us wherever we are. We have the ability to pursue it regardless of age, sex, wealth, or location. We can find Nishkaam Karma practiced by people across religions - the famous ones range from Mother Teresa to Warren Buffett to Gandhiji to Albert Einstein to Peter Drucker's grandmother (read his autobiography sometime).
Yet this practice is almost extinct in our world today. Despite longer lives, excellent technology for convenience, and stronger world peace, we are not at peace with life. We worry about wealth, security, reputation, what not! We look for opportunities to feel hurt, rather than opportunities to serve. Rather than take moral judgments through our in-built conscience (which only gets stronger through practice), we outsource them to religion. We observe religious practices with zeal and lack of logic matched only by that of OCD patients. While nature gives us friends and colleagues and family to love innocently and contribute positively to, we seek importance and superiority. We deliberately choose not to trust people and find it wise to be "shrewd" and protect our possessions - wasting energy securing ourselves from many who may actually desire only our well-being. Seriously, are we this stupid?!
Organized religions of today reinforce our deviation from happiness. They ask us to bypass our conscience and sense of logic, and outsource judgments to their "one-show-fits-all" illogical rules, many of which were actually defined to be practical centuries ago. Our religious leaders interpret and even evolve our philosophical heritage for their convenience - it is much easier to tell stories of demons and family feuds of Ramayana and Mahabharata, than to teach the concepts behind the Upanishadas and Vedas, or guide us in figuring the principles that should govern our lives. It is obviously easier for them to sell the idea of a "Transactional God" - a Being full of limitations, who punishes and rewards, who can be bribed and fooled, and who we can distract through daily pujas and offerings.
I am not against religion. True religion is nothing but philosophy. Religion offers suggestions about life. Hinduism is not the only religion talking of detached service - Jainism is not merely about wealth offerings and paryushana, but rather absolute detachment (which is now merely symbolic and ignored); Buddhism is about a quest for spiritual awareness and a benign life, not the creation of gold-plated Buddha statues; Christianity is not the set of rules on abortion and gay marriage - it is about seeking "to understand, not be understood; to love, more than be loved".
It seems plain stupidity of us to go against our natural inclination and choose a life of misery over happiness. My preliminary analysis says that our tendency to learn from others (who currently practice this stupidity) makes us defy our natural inclination and logic. This has strengthened over generations, and here we are.
Fortunately, we can reverse this any day, very easily, by changing our choice. It is also on us to make sure that we do not distract the still-innocent next generation from following their natural inclination, right and duty to only enjoy making positive contributions throughout life.
On some reflection, I feel that we have been built physically and mentally only to work, to contribute. We require food and shelter, so we may have energy to work. We are given the ability and desire to learn, so that we can contribute better, work more efficiently. We have been given the sense to identify excellence or laxity in our work, so we may ensure the former. We have been given the sense of liking and choice, so we may identify what kind of work we can be best at. And finally, we're gifted a conscience, which ensures that we choose a positive and constructive area of work. Nature has clearly built us to work and contribute to the world in our own positive way.
Executing this right and duty to contribute seems to have no negatives or challenges. Working keeps us fit to live and continue working. Improvising on our efforts exercises and satisfies our mind. Remaining synchronous with our conscience, and detachment from results ensure a mind free from anxiety, free to be innocent, intelligent and creative. We can be our real selves, free to trust and love everyone, unhindered by the baggage of their past actions. Our positive contributions, our trust and love deliver happiness to the world around us, which thereby becomes even easier to work in. I find it hard to see any flaw in nature's design for us.
Nishkaam Karma builds utopia for us wherever we are. We have the ability to pursue it regardless of age, sex, wealth, or location. We can find Nishkaam Karma practiced by people across religions - the famous ones range from Mother Teresa to Warren Buffett to Gandhiji to Albert Einstein to Peter Drucker's grandmother (read his autobiography sometime).
Yet this practice is almost extinct in our world today. Despite longer lives, excellent technology for convenience, and stronger world peace, we are not at peace with life. We worry about wealth, security, reputation, what not! We look for opportunities to feel hurt, rather than opportunities to serve. Rather than take moral judgments through our in-built conscience (which only gets stronger through practice), we outsource them to religion. We observe religious practices with zeal and lack of logic matched only by that of OCD patients. While nature gives us friends and colleagues and family to love innocently and contribute positively to, we seek importance and superiority. We deliberately choose not to trust people and find it wise to be "shrewd" and protect our possessions - wasting energy securing ourselves from many who may actually desire only our well-being. Seriously, are we this stupid?!
Organized religions of today reinforce our deviation from happiness. They ask us to bypass our conscience and sense of logic, and outsource judgments to their "one-show-fits-all" illogical rules, many of which were actually defined to be practical centuries ago. Our religious leaders interpret and even evolve our philosophical heritage for their convenience - it is much easier to tell stories of demons and family feuds of Ramayana and Mahabharata, than to teach the concepts behind the Upanishadas and Vedas, or guide us in figuring the principles that should govern our lives. It is obviously easier for them to sell the idea of a "Transactional God" - a Being full of limitations, who punishes and rewards, who can be bribed and fooled, and who we can distract through daily pujas and offerings.
I am not against religion. True religion is nothing but philosophy. Religion offers suggestions about life. Hinduism is not the only religion talking of detached service - Jainism is not merely about wealth offerings and paryushana, but rather absolute detachment (which is now merely symbolic and ignored); Buddhism is about a quest for spiritual awareness and a benign life, not the creation of gold-plated Buddha statues; Christianity is not the set of rules on abortion and gay marriage - it is about seeking "to understand, not be understood; to love, more than be loved".
It seems plain stupidity of us to go against our natural inclination and choose a life of misery over happiness. My preliminary analysis says that our tendency to learn from others (who currently practice this stupidity) makes us defy our natural inclination and logic. This has strengthened over generations, and here we are.
Fortunately, we can reverse this any day, very easily, by changing our choice. It is also on us to make sure that we do not distract the still-innocent next generation from following their natural inclination, right and duty to only enjoy making positive contributions throughout life.
Friday, July 12, 2013
The Weakness of Positive Emotions
I was giving a pep talk to my colleagues yesterday, when I had an interesting realization - we fail at achieving our positive targets because of the weakness of our positive emotions.
Interesting words, "positive emotions" and "positive targets"... Let me clarify. Negative emotions include anger, vengeance, fear, desperation, etc. Negative targets are the targets we seek being driven by our negative emotions - say the desire to hurt someone, desire to save someone, to escape from a scary place, and so on. Positive emotions include enthusiasm, care, ambition, etc. They are usually propelled from within us, and not by some negative situation around us. Positive targets, ones that emerge from these positive emotions, include the desire to grow, improve, become slim-n-fit, help, etc.
We all know the story of the lady who, on finding her infant trapped, gets a miraculous bout of energy out of nowhere, and succeeds in saving her child. We know countless stories of weak people exacting revenge on big villains. We ourselves get driven when we are desperate - when we are chased by a dog, or when we have to give a critical examination - we know no fevers, no ailments, no tiredness. Yet we do not have this desperation when we work for our careers, our products, our pro-active fitness plans, and so on.
For most of us, positive emotions are much weaker than negative emotions. People who can strengthen their positive emotions - who can maintain a resolve even when no desperation exists - end up succeeding. I read once that Azim Premji and Narayana Murthy work 70-80 hours a week. The President of the United States puts in no less. Follow Mukesh Ambani or Bill Gates - you will find no difference. It's not that they won't survive if they don't work this hard - they have far surpassed levels of achievement that most of us dream of. They succeeded, and continue to succeed, because they have reinforced their positive emotions.
It is uncommon to find positive emotions succeed. When we try to build our careers, we allow social occasions, travel excursions, health issues, family problems, TV shows, pretty much every little thing, to distract us. We therefore fail to achieve great successes of the scale that people tend to reach through fear or vengeance. And it is therefore unsurprising that positively successful people are also uncommon.
We need to ask ourselves - why can we not wake up at 4 AM and put in 12 or 14 hours of work even if we don't have external pressure? It is fine if we accept that we are not serious about our positive ambitions - that we wish to achieve them by fluke if at all - rather than apply halfhearted efforts that are bound to fail. Let the serious amongst us realize this common weakness, and choose to apply thrust towards their positive targets no less than the miracle energy we tend to receive under duress.
Interesting words, "positive emotions" and "positive targets"... Let me clarify. Negative emotions include anger, vengeance, fear, desperation, etc. Negative targets are the targets we seek being driven by our negative emotions - say the desire to hurt someone, desire to save someone, to escape from a scary place, and so on. Positive emotions include enthusiasm, care, ambition, etc. They are usually propelled from within us, and not by some negative situation around us. Positive targets, ones that emerge from these positive emotions, include the desire to grow, improve, become slim-n-fit, help, etc.
We all know the story of the lady who, on finding her infant trapped, gets a miraculous bout of energy out of nowhere, and succeeds in saving her child. We know countless stories of weak people exacting revenge on big villains. We ourselves get driven when we are desperate - when we are chased by a dog, or when we have to give a critical examination - we know no fevers, no ailments, no tiredness. Yet we do not have this desperation when we work for our careers, our products, our pro-active fitness plans, and so on.
For most of us, positive emotions are much weaker than negative emotions. People who can strengthen their positive emotions - who can maintain a resolve even when no desperation exists - end up succeeding. I read once that Azim Premji and Narayana Murthy work 70-80 hours a week. The President of the United States puts in no less. Follow Mukesh Ambani or Bill Gates - you will find no difference. It's not that they won't survive if they don't work this hard - they have far surpassed levels of achievement that most of us dream of. They succeeded, and continue to succeed, because they have reinforced their positive emotions.
It is uncommon to find positive emotions succeed. When we try to build our careers, we allow social occasions, travel excursions, health issues, family problems, TV shows, pretty much every little thing, to distract us. We therefore fail to achieve great successes of the scale that people tend to reach through fear or vengeance. And it is therefore unsurprising that positively successful people are also uncommon.
We need to ask ourselves - why can we not wake up at 4 AM and put in 12 or 14 hours of work even if we don't have external pressure? It is fine if we accept that we are not serious about our positive ambitions - that we wish to achieve them by fluke if at all - rather than apply halfhearted efforts that are bound to fail. Let the serious amongst us realize this common weakness, and choose to apply thrust towards their positive targets no less than the miracle energy we tend to receive under duress.
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